I know that Valentine’s Day is typically reserved for chocolates and expensive dinners or jewelry, but I find that, while these things are great for an evening, romance can only go so far if you’re not actually fixing the things you tend to fight about. This is especially true for parents. Once you have the added stress (umm, joy?) of kids in your life, it can put a lot of extra pressure on a marriage or relationship with a partner.
My husband and I met when we were only 18 years old. Although we were just friends for many years before we started dating, we have an incredibly solid foundation that helps keep us together when times get tough. But being together doesn’t always translate into having a strong connection. In fact, the connection is the hardest part. We both work, so our time together is usually pretty limited and fueled by exhaustion. And more often than not, instead of connecting, we end up having the same argument over and over again: we’re not on the same page when it comes to how we approach parenting.
We have two very smart and sassy girls–Sadie, almost 5, and Ava, 19 months. When we face parenting challenges, I am usually the one who is doing all the research, reading the books (let’s be honest, I don’t have time to read books. I skim them or listen to them on audiobook!), asking others for help in online parenting groups, and just generally being responsible for figuring out what to do. It annoys me that my husband thinks he can just “wing it”, which ultimately means that we’re sending mixed messages to our kids.
So, after our quadrillionth fight on this subject a few weeks ago, I decided to try something new: I asked him if he’d come to the Revolutionizing Parenthood Conference with me in April. And he said yes! In fact, he seemed pretty jazzed about the idea of also being the one to get educated about tools we can use to be better parents with a more united front. I’m really excited about this, and think that this will be more than just a chance for us to get on the same page about our kids; it will be an opportunity for us to connect in a whole new way, rediscover things about ourselves and each other, and just be two grown ups out without our kids for a day.
If you are looking to do something with your husband (or wife) that further solidifies your partnership and helps you create a more united front when it comes to your children, consider joining me at the Revolutionizing Parenthood conference on April 25th. To make it even harder for you to say no, we’re running a Buy One, Get One Free (yes, FREE!) special for a limited time. Use discount code LoveBird50 at checkout February 12th through February 16th to take advantage of this awesome deal!